Goals and Resolutions, 2016

I’ve mastered the art of non-committal and generally general goals and resolutions for 2016.


imageI read a short and sweet article the other day about the difference between goals and resolutions for the new year. Essentially, goals are finite while resolutions represent more of a lifestyle change. “Lose 20 pounds” is a goal; “exercise five times a week” is a resolution.

For 2016 I have a few goals and resolutions. I would like to lose some weight, but daily exercise continues to be a challenge. So I have a goal and a related resolution. (I also have some new outside gear for the MUCH colder weather in our new city.)

We would like to adopt this year. There are a lot of “finite” things we have to accomplish to see the big goal, but a major one is money. So I have a resolution related to regular savings, as well as some sub-goals related to financing.

As ever, reading/writing and creativity are part of my brain space. I’d like to write more (a resolution), and work on getting something published (that’d be a goal). I’ve been going strong on the handlettering, so I have a resolution related to doing that regularly. And I discovered a reading challenge that appealed to me greatly. I’ve already knocked one book off the list.

(I’ll probably post more fully about that reading challenge, along with my personal list, over on RaeReads.com at some point in the near future.)

Finally, I discovered this thing called “bullet journaling” which is a catch-all term for a simple planner and/or a long-term to-do list. The name “bullet journal” can be attributed to a specific guy, as well as one way to “do” bullet journaling. It’s a flexible system, though, and useful for getting and staying organized with tasks. I started trying it out in early December and have actually simplified how I “do” bullet journaling over the last few weeks. It’s handy.

I’m curious about your own goals and resolutions. Please share in the comments, or link to a post about what you look forward to in this new year.

Feliz año nuevo. (Improving my Spanish is a resolution!)

Soooo… Adoption

Next step in the journey – meaningfully pursuing adoption. There’s been a lot of reading and thinking and long conversations in this house lately. One of the results is that we are looking into foster/adopting from the state system. We recently attended the initial information session for our area of Texas and are now working our way through an impressive pile of initial paperwork.

Good timing, as November is National Adoption Month. We have a lot of positive reinforcement as we start down this road.

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image from https://www.davethomasfoundation.org/

Lots of things to think about as we move along this path. Fostering and adopting from the State system means we’ll be parenting kids taken from bad situations. Fostering means some kids we parent will return to their first-parents rather than staying with us. Adopting means years of paperwork and court appearances. We are limited in who we can parents because we live in an area with limited medical care and a homogeneous racial makeup. Plus, neither of us actually have any idea what we’re doing…

We have a lot of studying and training to do, a lot of decisions to make, still have a bit of soul-searching left. Already, we are prepping for difficulty and heartbreak that seem inherent in this approach, even when we know there’s no way to really adequately prepare for what’s ahead. Hope is an incredible thing, though, as is the potential for some hard-earned Joy.

The prospect of being parents, something we’ve wanted for  a long time, is both exciting and frightening. I’m aprehensive about parenting someone else’s child for months or years before that child is ours. I’m scared about falling in love and then being separated (pretty much a guarantee with the route we’re going) because a child’s first parents get their act together. At the same time, I’m relieved to put infertility behind us. I don’t really have adequate words for how relieved I am. And ultimately, I’m excited because we are on the path to being PARENTS.

Holy smokes. Even writing that is awesome.

I’ll keep you posted.

How to Deal

Whenever I’m having a tough day or must get through a hard situation I go to the internet for ideas and advice. You know what? Sometimes the internet sucks at providing realistic solutions to things. So, for my my latest trials and tribulations, rather than try to piece together a bunch of useless advice from random sources, I thought I’d share some truly useful advice from my own experience.

Everything in moderation, yada yada.

How to Deal with Tough Days, Chronic Jerks, the Death of an Awesome Family Dog, etc…

1. Buy Things

I personally like to purchase new home decor (curtains, bedspreads, sometimes paint) and/or exercise equipment I will never use.

If anyone would like a brand new Speedo cap and goggles, I’m your girl.

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Flickr – epSos.de

2. Rearrange Furniture

That stupid bed is ALWAYS AGAINST THAT ONE WALL. Move the entire bedroom around. This is like a double whammy of awesome coping powers. First, it means I pretty much have to clean whatever room I’m rearranging, which is always nice. Second, it’s good for about a week of “where am I?!” wake ups.

Also helpful at work, where coworkers will come into your office and be like “…wtf did you do? WHEN did you do this? Did you stay late to PUSH YOUR DESK AROUND?!”

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Flickr – Wicker Paradise

3. Drink

Anything goes for this one. Knock back those Jaeger-bombs. Also useful is reviving that smoking habit you kicked after college, preferably with some life-destroying brand like American Spirit or KOOLS. However you do it, make sure you hate yourself for at least 24 hours afterwards.

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Flickr – TheArches

4. Go to Vegas

That’s shorthand for “spend a shit-ton of money on a weekend trip.” This really doesn’t work if you just go to the movies and out to dinner. You have to pack a bag, go to a swanky hotel, order the surf & turf (lobster & veal, even though you normally boycott veal on cruelty grounds), go see a Broadway traveling show, and then eat chocolate-drenched waffles for breakfast the next morning.

This one couples nicely with numbers 1 and 3.

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Flickr – Moyan Brenn

5. Bring Home a Puppy (or Kitten)

If you already have two dogs and a cat, this one gets exponentially better. Not only will you be distracted by the insane needs of a baby animal (seriously, how can cats poop in a box from DAY ONE and it takes dogs like a YEAR to learn to hold it until they get outside?) but also you get some company in your misery as you watch your other pets spiral out of control as they try to adjust to a new creature that DOESN’T FOLLOW ANY OF THE RULES, DAMNIT.

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Flickr – S. J. Pyrotechnic

6. Read for Days

Forego sleep. Work your way through the entire Lord of the Rings, Harry Potter, Game of Thrones, Dragonriders of Pern, or other insanely long (no-way-it-can-be-read-in-one-sitting) series… in one sitting if possible. Try to survive on only 3-4 hours of sleep until you’ve completed the entire series. Bonus points: When people comment on how tired and out of it you seem, reply with quotes from the series.

Comment: “Wow, Rae, you seem really tired and out of it.”

Reply: “I have no memory of this place.” or “Winter is coming.”

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Flickr – John Morgan

7. Sleep

My personal favorite. Take several days off and take many naps. Totally destroy your normal-functioning sleeping schedule in favor of going to bed when you feel tired rather than based on when you have to be awake for work/kids/gym/whatever. Take four hour naps.

This one is the most gratifying if you throw in some other great coping mechanisms that are too mainstream for their own heading: don’t shower, eat ice cream for meals, ignore the dishes and laundry for several days, refuse to get out of bed, marathon a terrible TV show.

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Flickr – Eli Christman

Did I miss anything? I know everyone has a favorite. There are some I use that I didn’t include, because they’re not for everyone. For instance: quit your job; make all your siblings visit you at once; drive around a city and flip people off randomly; run up and down the steps of the Philadelphia Museum of Art like Rocky, etc…

Feel free to share yours.