Yesterday, every other post on my Facebook wall had a link to the story about the Komen Foundation (a giant women’s cancer research group) pulling their funding from Planned Parenthood.
Some people were delighted, some enraged. I thought about it for a while and decided I was frustrated.
To be clear: this post is not an agreement or rebuttal – I write letters and donate regarding issues like this, and that’s that.
My frustration is purely selfish. As someone who would benefit so incredibly much from a society that highly values adoption, this kind of scuffle is intensely disheartening.
I live in a weirdly mixed group that responds to unwanted pregnancies differently. Some women are from a culture that use abortion; some are from a culture that use grandma.
NONE use adoption. There’s a stigma and a fear attached to it that is so great that it’s not even a viable option for many. As I said earlier, that’s frustrating. Adoption is the “Other” of child-rearing.
Why is this? Why are the options I see around me considered BETTER than adoption? Why is it that I can find a clinic no problem, or a newborn daycare, but would not have the first clue how or where to navigate adoption? Why don’t pro-lifers spend more energy on this? Why don’t pro-choicers?
Why isn’t adoption lauded as a useful, valuable, supportable option by BOTH GROUPS?!
THAT isn’t right.