Dear Rae Rae:
You’re fun. Even when you’re really low, you still are a lot of fun. It’s not fake, like, “oh NO I’m totally FINE, I’m just having one of those DAYS,” but just, you recognize that you’re not 100% and make it part of the fun. And you laugh a lot. You find humor or joy in many occasions where most others are either low or just plain uninspired. That’s a blast.
It’s pretty obvious how much you enjoy human beings. You’re a lot like your mom: you can make friends anywhere. You’re truly interested and delighted by other people on a regular basis. And you really like hearing their stories, and you talk to people in a way that they want to tell you their stories.
“Vibes” are the word you use to talk about how you read people. Not sure if it’s really “vibes” or what, but your ability to read or assess people, situations, circumstances is amazing. There’s times where you’re totally guessing, based only on simple observation, but you end up being totally correct. It’s kind of creepy, but it’s also really interesting and useful. It’s the kind of skill that keeps on giving.
Thinking is something you are extremely good at. You obviously spend a lot of time pondering different situations. You’re thoughtful, like your dad. You always have reasons for doing things, and they always have a lot of consideration behind them. Because of this, your opinion is valuable, even when it’s on trivial or mundane things. There’s no sense of, “this is too silly for me to consider” with you. Maybe it’s because it’s so obvious that you really enjoy thinking about stuff.
Your relationships with others is pretty great. You try to maintain a balance of privacy and intimacy with friends and family members. People see this and appreciate it. Being friends with you is a valuable thing, because you make sure you stay in touch, that you’re trustworthy, that you’re there when needed, that you’re really working at the Golden Rule. While you like people in general, there’s a special place in your life for your friends and family members: I don’t know how else to say it except that it’s really obvious. You care about these people. You go out of your way to care about them.
You wifed yourself to a good man. The valuing-relationships thing is even more obvious in the way you think about and act toward your husband. It’s so plain to see that you think he’s great, and anyone who knows him could attest to him feeling the same way. You’ve got an excellent marriage, and that’s due in part to your own love and dedication. For as much as you depend on him, he has come to depend on you.
Hardship is not unknown to you. In fact, you’ve been through the ringer more than once in your life. You’ve made some tough decisions to not get sucked into a vortex of self-pity. It’s easy to wallow, and you know it, and you’ve done whatever you can to avoid that.
Sometimes you’ve been successful and sometimes not, but the coolest thing about you is that even when you fail miserably, you don’t stop. You pick yourself up, dust yourself off, look at how you failed, learn from it, and move on.
I don’t know what the future holds for you, Rae. What I do know is that, whatever it is, it’s going to be good. For all your cynicism and realism, you live your life with an underlying sense of hope and determination. You’re going to be able to look back, maaaaany years from now, and say to yourself: “there was a life well-lived.”
That is wonderful.